Chris’s Recovery Manifesto

I wrote this for myself, but feel free to take and leave whatever works for you. We’re all in this thing called recovery together, right? We need to help each other as much as we can. 😉 ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

CHRIS’S RECOVERY MANIFESTO

Boundaries are good. They’re important.

There is no such thing as too many meetings.

It’s okay to need people.

“No” does not require an explanation.

If you don’t mean it, don’t say it. If it comes out anyway, be prepared to make amends.

Always follow through.

It’s okay to be human; mistakes happen. What’s important is the getting back up part.

Call your sponsor.

Stop worrying about what other people think of you. It’s none of your business what they think of you.

Do the best you can; at the end of the day that’s all you can do.

Pray always. Pray about everything, the little things and the big things. Say thank you, regardless of what happens.

Never take the steps out of order. They were written that way for a reason.

Let go and let God.

Breathe. Breathe again.

Remember that you can’t save anyone, not even yourself. That’s God’s job.

Stop trying to control the moon and the stars. They were here long before you, and they function quite fine without your help.

People are who they are. Accept that and avoid much heartache.

Love them anyway.

Live big. Dream big. Laugh long and hard.

Have goals. Change them as necessary.

Always love and know that someone loves you.~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Note: I reserve the right to add to and edit this manifesto as I grow and learn more about myself and this thing called life. 


Peace out.

Comments

  1. I’m not quite sure what to say — you know I love you and support you in whatever you need to do, and I’m glad you’re finding a journey that works for you, but I just don’t have the background to really empathize with your situation. I grew up in a healthy family where I learned healthy boundaries and coping strategies, so it’s hard to get the perspective of somebody who has to learn all those things the hard way. But I can’t even say that without feeling arrogant, callus, and unsympathetic — and hugely guilty, as if growing up in a healthy family was an indulgence on my part. :p

    It sounds like you’re making huge strides and these insights are wonderfully phrased. You’re in my prayers.

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    • Bonnie, you should know me better than that. And you couldn’t sound arrogant, callus, or unsympathetic if you tried. Guilty? Why? I just read The Hunger Games, and to me that parallels Peeta feeling guilty for having stale bread to eat when Catniss had none. Not that you had “stale bread.” But …. my best friend when I was growing up was Michelle Lebeck. She had a VERY normal, healthy family. Nothing weird going on. I wasn’t jealous of her at all. I did think her family was a little strange (compared to mine – lol), but … it was just different.

      You don’t have to have been in jail to empathize with someone who was in prison. We can all think of situations where we have felt trapped, unable to escape….maybe not to that extent….but what we don’t FEEL we can always ask about. And that’s what you do. So let go of the guilt, okay? You are the most sympathetic, helpful, comforting and loving person I know. 🙂 Be gentle with yourself.

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      • Aw, thanks. I guess I needed a pep talk 🙂

        A friend of mine who’s a shrink says it’s a variation on “survivor’s guilt.”

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    • Thanks, Rhonda! I’m feeling a lot better…why in the world would I think I could isolate and still hold onto my sanity? LOL What in that sentence makes sense?

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