The Curious Paradox

The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.
(Carl Rogers).

At this morning’s Al-Anon meeting, the topic of the table was about being powerless.

I knew all about the powerlessness over the alcoholic, over other people, places, and things. This I had come face-to-face with many times.

But then someone at the table mentioned being powerless over her own self, and it felt like all the air been sucked right out of me. That’s it! That’s what I’ve been feeling over the last couple of weeks.

Powerless over myself.

But how can that be? Aren’t I supposed to be in control of myself? Then again, nothing I do is of my own willpower. My higher power, who you all know by now I choose to call God, takes care of all that for me. I can’t even save myself!

The curious paradox is when I saw this connection, when I began to accept that I am powerless over myself, then I could believe that a power greater than me could restore myself  to sanity. Only THEN could change begin. Because – between you and me – I’m pretty messed up.

Have a great Sunday. Peace out.

4 thoughts on “The Curious Paradox

  1. WE are all messed me to some degree. however i did like to diagree with you on one thing,

    I believe we are not powerless when it comes to own self. We simply cant be because we are all made in god,s vision and that alone comes with great power and if we did dig just a little bit deeper what ever we want we are the masters of it. God gave us life, god gave us the senses , how can we not have power with such great gifts and tools?

    Life is a about choices and what ever we choose so it shall be.


    • Thanks for commenting! I can see your point, but I think there’s a big difference between being powerless and helpless. While God might have all the *power* over my life, He gives me the tools to help myself. I’m totally NOT helpless. There is much I can do about my situation, you’re right, and it’s a lot to do with choices. 🙂


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