When To Say Yes And When To Say No

Sometimes it can seem like a balancing act between saying “yes” and saying “no” and we feel ourselves teetering in Maybe-land. Saying no is not a bad thing. Neither is saying yes. It is YOUR recovery. It takes you as long as it takes you to get wherever you need to get. And that’s up to you and your sponsor, or your higher power, or whomever you decide to take along the journey. I have had to learn to say no for my own sanity and self-care. It has not been easy. I’ve been met with tears, and pleading, manipulation, threats . . . what has helped me the most is this simple statement. I give you the dignity to figure it out on your own. More than anything, addicts need their dignity back. It has been taken from them with this disease. Giving in to every manipulation, every desire, every pleading, everything that they are able to do for themselves, does not dignify them. Not in the least.   I’d be interested in hearing your thoughts on this matter. Am I too harsh from being immersed with alcoholics for nearly 50 years?

Please do tell me what you think. I’m all ears. And It’s a good day. No self-harm today. 🙂

Peace out.

 

Comments

  1. I’m amazed, I must say. Seldom do I encounter a blog that’s both educative and
    entertaining, and let me tell you, you have hit the nail on the head.
    The problem is an issue that not enough folks are
    speaking intelligently about. I’m very happy I stumbled across this during my hunt for something regarding this.

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    • Thank you very much. Your comment was so encouraging! I totally agree, and that is what I try to cover in my blog, but sometimes it feels like an uphill battle. Thanks again for reading and for making my day with your comment!
      -Chris

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