You Are Enough!

be you Accept everything about yourself—I mean everything. You are you and that is the beginning and the end—no apologies, no regrets.
— HENRY KISSINGER

Here’s something not everyone knows about me. As much as I love the holidays, it’s still hard for me to be around other people for too long, even family. I never know what to talk about. I’m on disability, so I can’t talk about work. I do read the news, so I can talk about that to some degree, but I don’t argue well. 😉 So when it comes to arguing a point, I always lose. I don’t mean argument as in a fight or something; just differing views, I’m not good at defending my own. Never have been.

So I get a little nervous as Christmas Eve and Day approach. When I see family, what can we talk about? I’ve heard advice in the past: “news, weather, and sports.” Well, okay, that can work to a certain extent.

What I find most helpful, when I’m stuck, is to ask about the other person. What’s been happening with them? People love to talk about themselves (well, most people 😛  ). One question can lead to other questions and before you know it, you’re having a whole dialogue and it’s all okay.

But here’s something I need to remember this year, and maybe you do, too. I’m enough, just the way I am. In fact, I’m wonderful. There are unique qualities about me: my sense of humor, compassion, ability to empathize, that make me a good listener and a fine companion for the holidays.

What about you? What are your unique qualities that make you wonderful and fun to be around? I’m sure you can think of just one. Here’s a trick. Do like I just did. Write it out. Then say it out loud. Even if you don’t believe it yet. Because it’s true.

And hey, it’s all you. 😀

Peace out.

Comments

  1. Awesome post! Definitely true. I have a hard time in groups of people too. I tend to sit back and watch, only joining in occasionally – even when it’s just family. I’m much better one on one. I just never enjoy being the center of attention. And we all need to remember that we are enough as we are at any given moment. Although I continually strive to be better. 🙂

    Here’s one thing you can brag about if you’d like. The post you did for me about Al-anon has got to be the most viewed post. I get anywhere from 1 to 10 views on it a day. I don’t think there’s been a day skipped in the last two months or more. Someone is always searching about Al-anon and what it’s like. And the majority of days there’s always a click or more to the Al-anon website. Thank you so much for the wonderful guest post you did for me and for helping so many people.

    Merry Christmas, Chris! I wish you a happy, healthy and successful 2013.

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    • ((((((((((((((hugs))))))))) and thank you for this lovely comment to me. And it can only be a good year in 2013–after all, we survived the Mayan apocalypse! 😉
      You are a dear, good friend. I wish you nothing but the best, always.

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