The art of conversation is fraught with land mines on a good day. When you have to deal with someone in a mixed state, you’d better be sure to speak to your higher power too. 😉
Now, I can joke about this, because I’m the one in the mixed state. Not that it’s funny to be in a mixed state, but you know the saying “If you can’t laugh about it you’ll go crazy.”
But this experience, I think, helps me to know a little about what may be more appropriate and productive as opposed to—well inappropriate.
Without further adieu, here are five things so not to say to that poor sap in a mixed state:
1. It’s all in your head.
2. You really need help.
3. Do you speak to your mother with that mouth?
4. You’re making a mountain out of a mole hill.
5. I need to take a step back in our friendship.
There ya go. I’ll be the first to admit mixed state bipolar is a whole lotta crazy, but I also know it’s not voluntary. It’s a sickness. I look back on the days in June of 2013 when all I had to deal with was severe depression with tender fondness.
We’re all in this screwball thing called life together, and we only get one go around. I think we need as many mates as we can get.
That said, take care of you. If you really can’t deal, you can’t deal. Some people, I’ve learned the hard way, can understand a manic episode, but they can’t stick around and deal with it. Those are two very different definitions, and it doesn’t reflect badly on the person at all.
Thank you for helping people understand the reality of mixed bipolar episodes. This is not discussed enough!
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I found that out when I went to research my own illness! It’s unreal. There’s a lot about manic episodes and bipolar in general, but . . . a black hole where mixed episodes should be. Sort of makes you feel like the unwanted stepchild. Which is how I DO feel when I’m in that state, except for one or two very exceptional people who work hard to accept and love unconditionally, like my mom . . . and my sister, who is the one who can “understand” but not “deal.” 🙂
Thank you for your support. 😀 It means a lot. It’s hard to post and be ill at the same time.
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